I found truth in this short poem, I would have to say that I spent many days trying to keep my grief tucked away in hopes that I wouldn’t have to feel the pain of loosing my husband in December 2006. It wasn’t until I began to embrace my grief and allow it to become part of me and not define who I was to become , did I start to begin the healing process. It was at that time I began to see my future differently.
Grief Comes in One Size
Grief comes in one size, EXTRA LARGE.
If we tuck it away in the bottom drawer
where it never sees the light of day,
it remains exactly the same.
If we wear it, feel it, talk about it,
and share with others,
it is likely to become faded, shrunk, and worn,
or simply no longer fit.
When grief has served it purpose,
we are able to recognize the many gifts we have gained.
~Diannen Arcangel, in
Life After Loss