Myths and Secrets of Happiness

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Who is happy? What makes a person happy?
Researchers continue to find answers to these long asked questions.

Myths of happiness

Before learning what relates to happiness, researchers, such as David Myers, Ph.D., have learned that there are several myths to popular beliefs about happiness.

  • Myth #1: Age predicts happiness. Research studying more than a million people in many countries revealed that happiness is about equally prevalent among people of all ages.
  • Myth #2: Gender predicts happiness. Research has found that happiness does not favor males or females.
  • Myth #3: Wealth predicts happiness. Research has found that those with very high incomes and those in the richest of countries are no happier than others. In fact, as income in Western countries has doubled over the last half century, happiness has failed to increase. While many can have access to luxuries such as air conditioning, cell phones, Internet access, and other gadgets, research suggests we are no happier than were our parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents without these items.

Secrets of Happiness

So, if the above factors are not predicting happiness, what is?
Research suggests the four following secrets to happiness.

  1. Positive Traits. Having optimism, self-esteem, and perceived control over one’s life are factors repeatedly related to happy people.
  2. Flow. What’s flow? Flow is an optimal state in which we feel balanced between overwhelmed and underwhelmed. When we feel flow, we are so absorbed in an activity that we lose our sense of self and time and simply enjoy ourselves. Often, people think they would just be happy if they could be mindlessly passive, but research shows that we are happier when we are engrossed in a mindful challenge. So, work and leisure experiences that engage our skills promote happiness. Something to remember when we think making time to watch TV will make us happy, rather than spending time in our favorite hobby.
  3. Close, supportive relationships. Humans are social animals, so we have a need to belong. So, we benefit from having companions through the journey of life. Research has found that having people with whom we can share our hurts and our celebrations relates to happiness.
  4. Faith. Having a hope-filled faith has also been repeatedly found to relate to happiness in the research. For some, faith is a source of social connection, for some it is a source of meaning, for some it is a source of ultimate hope, and for others it is a combination of these.

So, while age, gender, and money do not relate to happiness, having a positive attitude, involving oneself in engaging activities, involving oneself in caring relationships, and having a hope-filled faith seem to be the secrets to happiness. Other factors that repeatedly are related to happiness in the research include the fact that happy people tend to have energy that is enhanced by regular aerobic exercise, adequate sleep, and positive attitudes including a sense of gratitude for one’s health, friends, and family.

About Sarah Arnold

Sarah enjoys working with children, adolescents, adults, and families. Her approach with children includes a combination of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) & play therapy. Her therapy style allows families to feel comfortable to address their struggles while gaining coping strategies. Her areas of speciality include work with ADHD, autism spectrum disorders, anxiety disorders, & mood disorders. Other areas of specialization include psychological testing, selective mutism, social anxiety, childhood OCD, and struggles related to disruptive behavior, attachment, grief, stress, parenting, & trauma.

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