How do I stop bullying?


Bullying seems to be a continued word that is being talked about, especially now that school is back in full swing.  Bullying is any unwanted or aggressive, repeated behavior where there is an imbalance of power between two or more individuals.  For children and adolescents, bullying happens more frequently in areas where there is less supervision by an adult.  For adults, they may include areas where other adults or supervisors are not present.

Three types of bullying are verbal, social, and physical.

  • Verbal- includes teasing, name calling, threatening, or taunting
  • Social- includes attempting to hurt someone’s reputation, spreading rumors about someone, embarrassing someone in public
  • Physical- examples include hitting, kicking, spitting, pushing, or breaking someone’s things

Signs of bullying may include moodiness and having anxious or depressed feelings.  For children and adolescents, they may find excuses not to go to school, have a decrease in their school performance, or seem to frequently lose items such as books or clothing, as those items may either be taken or destroyed by the individual/s that are doing the bullying.  Adults may struggle with wanting to go to work or have a decrease in overall work performance or production.

What are some Do’s and Don’ts of Bullying?

  • DO stop bullying on the spot.  Speak up and say something.
  • DO believe the victim.
  • DO encourage others not to be an audience.
  • DO be present and open (especially if someone is confiding in you).
  • DO communicate.
  • DO encourage them to go to a trusted adult.
  • DO model how to treat others.
  • DO be consistent with enforcing rules.


  • DON’T ignore it.
  • DON’T attempt to sort out all the details.
  • DON’T put the blame on the victim.
  • DON’T force them to speak publicly about it.
  • DON’T set inappropriate consequences.

About Krystle Arellano

Krystle Schmitz is a psychotherapist with Psychiatric Associates in Beaver Dam. She received her Master's Degree in Community Counseling from Lakeland College. Krystle enjoys working with children, adolescents, and young adults on issues that include anger and stress management, anxiety disorders, depression, trauma/abuse, parenting, and behavioral problems.

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