Loving Someone with a Mental Illness – Part 3

Heart in HandsDoes someone you love struggle with a mental illness? Chances are that you struggle too. Follow our four-part blog to help you learn whether your words and actions are helping or hurting your situation.

Blaming the Disorder

When you love someone with a mental illness, it may be normal to feel angry or burned out. It may seem lonely and a never-ending hassle to love someone whose behavior makes normal functioning seem impossible. However, it is not fair to blame your loved one’s mental illness for all of your own problems.

When you make poor choices, try not to blame it on the “disorder.” Take personal responsibility. This will help your loved one learn to take responsibility for their own choices. Having a mental health issue does not make one incapable – only different. When something painful or difficult happens, it helps to think in grays. That means that the mental health concern may have been an influence, without being completely causal.

This is part three of a four-part blog series. If you missed our previous postings, please visit http://ingoodhealthfdl.agnesian.com/category/know-go/behavioral-health/.

About Beth Rogers-Doll PhD

Beth graduated from the Illinois Institute of Technology, is Board-Certified in Psychology and works at Doll & Associates. She works with adolescents, adults, families and couples utilizing a cognitive-behavioral and family systems approach. Areas of expertise include anxiety disorders (Panic, OCD, PTSD, and other trauma-related problems), depression, self-injury, eating disorders, trichotillomania (hair pulling) and marital distress. Also trained in executive coaching and career development, she helps professionals achieve their full potential.

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